Monday, October 22, 2007

About Yourself

Who you are is more valuable than what you do. Your worth as a person is not based on your intelligence, your grades, how hard you work. It is enough to be you.

Respect and value the opinions of others - but realize that ultimately you must respect and satisfy yourself.
Practice impulse control by imagining the consequences of your actions. How will you feel afterwards? Then, act so that you will be satisfied with yourself.

Write out a plan for yourself. Jot down personal and academic goals and priorities, and reread them when you're in a slump.

Don't worry about or dwell on things that go wrong. Concentrate on your successes. Remember that little successes build up just as quickly as little failures.

Give yourself time to change. Forgive yourself for backsliding and making mistakes.
Don't be a perfectionist. Make approaching your goals the basis of your self-respect rather than reaching your goals.
Don't allow feelings of inadequacy to get you down. Think about all the things you do have going for you.
If you're feeling down or hopeless, imagine the worst that could happen - exaggerate your fantasies - and then laugh at them. Do this to put yourself and your current situation in perspective.

When you're down, go to someone you know cares for you and ask him or her to give you a "pep talk," reminding you of your good qualities and talents and abilities and/or make a list of your good qualities and read them when you need to.

Be willing to risk failure for something you really care about. Be willing to risk success, too!
If you're irrationally afraid of something, do it a lot; the fear will wear off.
Learn to recognize, sooner, events which are not turning out as they should - and act to redirect them to your satisfaction.

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